Plan the Marriage, Not Just the Wedding

by | Oct 11, 2016 | General Blog |

Are you seeking pre-marriage counselling?

Do you seek good preparation for marriage? As distinct from problem-focused couples counselling?

Several of our marriage counsellors offer a well-proven program called Prepare/Enrich.


The Prepare/Enrich Program

The Prepare/Enrich Program is based on extensive research, and has been used by over 3 million couples over 30 years.

This program is different from regular counselling which focuses on a particular problem or crisis. Premarital counselling is broad and systematic, and will help couples understand and work through:

  • The strengths and growth areas in their relationship
  • Any differences in expectations and background
  • New learning, awareness and skills which will help their relationship grow

As a couple, you separately fill in an online Inventory Questionnaire. This is very thorough and takes about 30 – 45 minutes to complete.

The feedback sessions with your counsellor will explore the patterns in your Questionnaire responses. Therefore, this work will be more highly personalised and practical than if you were attending a course. This program normally takes about 3-4 feedback sessions.

Prepare/Enrich is not just any survey

The items you respond to are based on research and are intended to help you identify the unique strengths and potential growth areas of your premarital or married relationship. You’ll meet with a facilitator trained to provide feedback by helping you understand your results and learn important relationship skills.

Built on a solid research foundation, Prepare/Enrich has been improved and refined over the years to become one of the best, most effective, easy-to-use relationship assessment tools available.

Over 3 Million Couples Assessed!

Over the last 30 years, the Prepare/Enrich relationship assessment has empowered and energised more than 3 million couples. It is the premier couple inventory and assessment tool used nationally and internationally.

Prepare/Enrich will help you:

  • Identify strength and growth areas
  • Explore personality traits
  • Strengthen communication skills
  • Resolve conflicts and reduce stress
  • Compare family backgrounds
  • Comfortably discuss financial issues
  • Establish personal, couple, and family goals

Prepare/Enrich gives you insight

  • 12 Relationship Scales – communication, conflict resolution, roles, sexuality, finances, spiritual beliefs, and more
  • 5 SCOPE Personality Scales
  • 4 Couple and Family Scales – based on Circumplex Model
  • 4 Relationship Dynamic Scales
  • 30 Customised Scales

Prepare/Enrich is a sophisticated instrument that must be interpreted by a trained counsellor or by your certified marriage educator, pastor, priest or marriage mentor.

Rigorously tested for reliability and validity

Historically, the items and scales in Prepare/Enrich have been rigorously tested for both reliability and validity, with excellent results. The national norm base is very large and a couple typology with premarital and married couples has been developed and validated with various ethnic groups. The norm base used is typically about 100,000 couples.

As well as providing important demographic and background information for a couple, 22 areas are assessed and individual and couple responses in these areas are summarised in reports made available to the Facilitator:

A. Significant Issues for Couples

  • Communication
  • Conflict Resolution
  • Partner Style & Habits
  • Financial Management
  • Leisure Activities
  • Affection & Sexuality
  • Family and Friends
  • Idealistic Distortion
  • Relationship Roles
  • Spiritual Beliefs

B. Relationship Dynamics

  • Assertiveness
  • Self Confidence
  • Avoidance
  • Partner Dominance

C. Couple and Family Map

  • Closeness and Flexibility of Family-of-Origin
  • Closeness and Flexibility of Couple Relationship/Marriage

D. Personality

  • Social
  • Change
  • Organised
  • Pleasing
  • Emotionally Steady

Couples also answer questions about stress and, depending on their circumstances answer questions about cultural/ethnic issues, interfaith/inter-church issues, parenting issues, cohabitation issues, forgiveness issues, commitment issues and issues arising from a previous marriage.

Pin It on Pinterest

Share This