Separation and Divorce Counselling

Are you considering separation or divorce?

  • Feeling confused whether or not to separate?
  • Do you desire an amicable separation while protecting your children?
  • Wanting mediation to make decisions post-separation?

Deciding to see an experienced relationship counsellor can be a daunting choice. Our team has the experience and expertise to help you in resolving your issues, no matter how complex.

Easy booking process

1 Free consultation

On calling us, we make the process simple and easy for you. Our experienced Intake Counsellor will chat with you for up to 15 minutes free of charge.

2 Choice of therapists

The Intake Counsellor will listen and answer all your questions. This will help you make a well-informed decision about who is most suited for your situation.

3 Flexible hours and fees

Choose a time that suits you, including after hours. Choose face to face or skype. We offer generous concessions if there are financial difficulties.

Ask how we help after separation.

Ring us for a free 15 minute phone consultation with our Intake Counsellor – 9-5pm

Common questions about counselling after separation or divorce

We’ve been dating for a while and I don’t know if I want to continue

Sometimes friends and family can give predictable advice. After all, they want to protect you. But your feelings, or your partner’s, pull you in a different direction.

Who do you turn to for good ‘fatherly’ or ‘motherly’ perspective and advice, other than family?

A relationship expert who is helping countless couples every week may be the place to start. Often this involves only one to a few sessions and can be a huge help in making big decisions.

I’m at breaking point. Should I leave or stay?

 
Partners consider separation for many reasons. These include growing apart, communication breakdown, abuse and the accumulation of resentment. A partner may wonder, “Is it worth staying?”.
 
Couples counselling can provide a safe and controlled forum if you are both willing to talk. You will at least have the satisfaction that you tried everything and left no stone unturned.
 
If that is too difficult emotionally, personal counselling can help clear your head. Or, it may help you assess the level of abuse in the relationship and the extent of the emotional damage. This can help prepare you to leave a destructive marriage.

We want our separation or divorce to be amicable

Before or after a couple separate, there may be concerns for how best to manage the impact on the children. Couples may have seen friends separate with ongoing tension and bitterness. They want to ensure they don’t fall into the same trap.
 
There are healthy ways for a relationship to end. Relationship counselling after divorce or separation can smooth the process. It can help ensure amicable co-parenting and respectful communication.

Do you do meditation to help with finances and parenting?

We recommend you seek out professional mediation services for financial separation settlements. That is not a service we provide.
 
However, we can help provide a mediation process for parenting plans. The law in most cases will require you to try mediation before embarking on a legal process. Coming to mutual agreement is preferable to having one imposed by a court. Going to court can be highly adversarial and expensive.

We need help with communication and expectations after separation

We can provide mediation for questions such as:

  • How do we communicate so that we do not continue fighting?
  • Do we need a trusted in-between person for our ongoing communication?
  • How do we define our relationship after separation?
  • Can we stay friends or only co-parents?

We separated badly. How do I cope?

This is heart-wrenching. Sometimes a partner leaves without explaining why. Sometimes there is an affair. There will be past hurts and resentment.

This can trigger a range of reactions:

  • Was it my fault?
  • How will I cope?
  • It feels like my life has ended.

Personal counselling can provide a safe place to work through all the above. It will be important to develop self-compassion, self-care and healthy coping strategies. Eventually, you can redefine meaning and purpose in your life.

We have been separated for ages. My partner wants to get back together. I’m unsure.

It is difficult when partners don’t share the same hopes and motivation for rebuilding the relationship. This is true especially after a long or complex history or after one or more affairs.
 
However, even at this stage, therapy can break new ground. It can help clear up misunderstandings and bring forgiveness to past wounds.
 
At the end of the day, the choice to resume after a long separation is something that only the couple can make. Counselling can provide a means to make that choice wisely.

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