Grief Counselling

Have you suffered a significant loss in your life?

  • Feeling shocked, sad and disoriented from the loss of a loved one?
  • Struggling to come to terms with your loss?
  • Have you lost a job or relationship unexpectedly?
  • Wondering if you can ever ‘get over it’ and ‘move on’?

When you contact us, we will help you choose the best match for your situation from our team.

We are open daytime and after hours, Monday to Saturday, including evenings.

What is grief?

Grief is our response to loss. It is the normal, natural and inevitable response to loss. It can affect every part of our life, including our thoughts, behaviours, beliefs, feelings, physical health and our relationships with others. There can be a sense of shock or disbelief when you lose someone close to you or something important to you.

Grief can feel as debilitating and people can experience grief in so many different ways. There can be a flow-on effect, as that loss in our life can represent so much more to us.

Grief is different for everyone

At some point or another, in everyone’s life, there will be experiences that lead to grief reactions. Losing a loved one or a beloved pet is all too common. There are so many other loss experiences people can experience, such as:

  • Loss of a job
  • Relationship breakdown or divorce
  • Loss of property
  • Loss of mobility due to ageing or accident
  • Dealing with chronic illness such as cancer, dementia or mental health issues

Everyone grieves in their own way. Your grief is unique to you, and as long as you are not causing harm to yourself or those around you, there are no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ ways to grieve. It is a common myth that people ‘get over’ grief. 

With time, the pain will lessen but the sadness we feel will always be a part of us. It is important to give yourself permission to grieve and to grieve in your own way. People can feel pressured to process grief in a particular way or for a particular length of time.

People can experience a large range of emotions as they work through grief. They can feel sadness at the loss an important part of their life. Or they can feel anger at the injustice of the loss. They can feel responsible for the loss and blame themselves or others. They can develop a sense of fear at the thought of having to face life once again. Or they can feel numb from the grief. These are natural responses as we come to terms with the pain of the loss.

Learning to cope and process the loss that you experience can take a lot longer than you think sometimes. The path one takes during this time can take many turns. Everyone’s grief journey is different.

Although the feelings associated with grief will get better over time, the memory might not go away. There will still be a sense of loss in years to come, but the emotions will feel different.

Check out what we offer in grief counselling

Ring us for a free 15 minute phone consultation with our Intake Counsellor – 9-5pm

Grief counselling may help you

Although grief can be very painful, most people gradually find ways to learn to live with their loss and do not need to seek professional help.

While not everyone will seek professional intervention to help process their experiences, many people do. People often find benefits in allowing a counsellor or psychologist to journey with them during this time.

Grief counsellors provide a holding space and a sense of control during the journey of grief. Some people speak of the benefit of having a space to cry or to debrief.

As life goes on, people can tend to stop asking how you are and stop supporting you. Counselling provides a sacred space where you can express your grief for the loss.

 

A trained professional can:

  • Be a witness to your grief
  • Help you explore different elements in your grief
  • Help you hold on to the memories of your loved ones and celebrate their life
  • Provide strategies for coping with grief
  • Provide structure for decision-making such as funeral plans, back-to-work plans, etc.

If you are finding it difficult to manage on a day-to-day basis, it may be helpful to see a counsellor. It’s okay to admit you are struggling with your grief. No one will think any less of you if you ask for help along the way.

The aim of grief counselling is to support you and help you process and explore your experience. Over time, you can heal, grow from it, and flourish — even through the pain.